The Fatality on “wanting” to be Happy

There are times that I’m utterly and completely happy and then the next second my mood goes down a nudge. I think this is pretty standard for everyone or for most women.

But the key of being happy or wanting to be happy is the most fallacious way we can think of because happiness comes bottled in little moments, little smiles, little meals that fill up the happy moment of each day.

Wanting to be happy takes you to anxiety because being all smiley and content all the time is tiring, we need our moments of sadness, solitude, calmness, anger, or our moments of just plain numbness.

I think accepting that you can let yourself feel all these things is the true happiness because if we are afraid to feel any feeling other than contentment we wouldn’t recognize how it is to be a human being that truly lets go and enjoy.

For me, happiness is a meal of fried fish and plantain, the exact moment before it starts raining and the exact moment when it stops, the lullaby of a bird after the rain, the trees swinging its branches with the wind, my mothers’ smile, a kid’s laughter, dancing to whatever, beer with a few friends, getting introduced to people and being able to be myself from the beginning, the embrace of my dad after 8 hours of work, drinking lots of perfectly acclimatized water, being able to fall sleep in the grass of a park and not get bitten by ants, my dog, etc, etc..

These moments make up for the happiness share of my days, and none of them are planned, that’s the beauty of it; to truly feel joy we ought to stop planning on getting happy.

Stop looking for it, it’ll come the moment you start doing the things you love and the moment you let yourself surrender to the beauty of feeling.

R.

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Speak Up and Rise!

As almost everyone else, I have been trying to update myself on the Turkish situation throughout the web (facebook, twitter, blogs, youtube, etc), since the media has little to no coverage on the uprising events that are happening over there.

I will not try to explain what is going over there because I will never be as familiarized or well-informed enough as a Turkish person who is actually living the events and know what has been going on for a while now.

I’m doing a little help from half way around the world by posting this video I found on youtube explaining quite well the events happening as a write or as you read right now.

The social media (facebook, twitter, blogs, etc, etc) is our tool nowadays to speak up, rise and share when the news and the governments try to silence us in moments of despair. So let’s share, like, reblog, retweet, repost everything that have to be with the riots in Turkey and any other problem happening around the world.

R.

Great Travellers: Andre Brugiroux

Japan 1970

This picture was taken in Japan, 1970, while hitch-hiking. It highlights the way he usually travelled aside from planes, boats and yachts. He travelled with his little backpack where he could keep his sleeping bag, coat, food and hundreds of memories; he said he used to spend $1 per day.

He is a French writer, born in 1937 than between 1955 and 2005 every country and territory in the world.

His mother, who had done some touring before getting married, was the one who unwittingly transmitted him the desire to travel and provided him with the key to developing his future resourcefulness by enrolling him as a scout.

His childhood was marked by war and his travels around the world have had the purpose of discovering whether peace will be possible one day.

He left in 1955 with 17 years, with a diploma in Hospitality from Paris, working first for 7 years in Europe, to learn languages, accepting any job.  Between his time in Spain and West Germany he did his military service in the Congo (1958 and 1959).

After saving money for 3 years, performing as a translator in Canada, he was able to travel the world for 6 years without working.

He made a documentary about his adventures, wrote 10 books and he dedicated especially on trips to raise awareness of the Baha’i Faith (is a monotheistic religion whose adherents follow the teachings of Baha’u’llah, who considered the manifestation of God for the present time).

The title of both his film and his first book, La Terre n’est qu’un seul pays (literally: “The Earth is but one country”, published in English as One People, One Planet), is the conclusion to which his first journey around the world brought him, a journey which lasted 18 years before he returned home (1955 to 1973), and during which he hitch hiked 400,000 km (250,000 mi), hitch hiking through 135 countries on every continent.

Places visited between 1955 and 2005

Very inspiring man, of course, nowadays it would be impossible to get around with $1 daily but we can actually get around with less than we can imagine if we learn to trust our instincts and manage our money. He did not travelled glamorously and he was actually in danger a few times but if you have the courage and determination of this man, you could get anywhere you want; but not with one dollar a day.

I hope yall got a little inspired to actually try to travel a bit, even in your own country, which is a start. Think about the great stories you’ll have to tell your grandchildren 😉

R.

Alaska 1969

Oslo 1973

Jakarta 1970

source: Portal Mochilero and Wikipedia.

Post-Thursday Inspiration #14

I haven’t been posting a lot lately because I’ve been either crazy busy or crazy lazy the days I have nothing to do. Today I found some awesome inspiring pictures in Pinterest when I should actually be doing some homework or photography. But really if I have to see another must-send application form from universities and scholarships I’ll go crazy.

So here is a little inspiration in this not-so-special Friday to fill our heads and dreams!

R.

22 reflections of a 22 years old new born

On these 22 years I’ve lived I’ve realized that.. shit I’m getting old.. but more than that I’ve realized that:

  1. Many things are changing, whether I like it or not..
  2. I know exactly what makes me happy and I’m going to fight for it
  3. Friends may disappoint you but, at this point, you can’t afford losing old friends. But you can make new ones..
  4. Money will always come and go, we all know that. The point with money is knowing when and with whom you spend it.
  5. Be yourself. This is an old one. What I mean is that, if you want to give your friends, your dog or any person, something.. give it to them and don’t expect anything in return because you were the one that wanted to give them something. Be the giver..
  6. If someone really wants to be with you or if you really want to do something you will always find the way to make it happen. If you find yourself doubting, even a little, then you really don’t want to do it and the odds are that (not always) you will feel crappy afterwards.
  7. Nobody can make the things you want to do better than you..
  8. Don’t give a damn what other people think if you are doing what makes you happy. Its making YOU happy, not them, its their problem..
  9. Find you niche, your people, your entourage..
  10. I have learned over the past few years that birthdays, Christmas, Valentines Days or any other invented holiday are just like any other day and it will pass and then you will find yourself a little broken and feeling the same way as any other day..
  11. The best days are not the holidays that are planned, are the days that come all of the sudden and you end up doing what you least expected with the least expected people, creating memories..
  12. Wonder about something and do it, don’t die wondering..
  13. If you have always felt like a stranger in your family the odds are that they see you as the weird one as well, and that’s fine..
  14. If you really want to do something and you are worry about the outcome, be impulsive and do it. Then say “oh I’m sorry, you must feel so invaded, I don’t know what got into me.. bla bla bla.. You’ll feel better that you did it and apologize afterwards to make it not-weird.. (not sure about this one though)
  15. Get some time alone and enjoy yourself, you know yourself better than anyone else.
  16. Be your own best friend..
  17. Doing nothing will make you feel miserable. Do something everyday and then take a day off to relax.
  18. Balance your foods. You can’t always eat junk food, or healthy food.
  19. If someone says, let’s drink. Drink. You never know when it will be the last time you can do it.
  20. Have 20 pairs of underwear. Cute underwear. Toss the ugly ones, or keep them to sleep on your single lonely nights..
  21. Always, always listen to your instincts. Your guts know more than you know..
  22. And finally, enjoy your youth, the time you, me, we have to do whatever the fuck we want with the little we have and actually be happy about any outcome.. just don’t get pregnant, please..

There you go, 22 basic principles I’ve learned this last 22 years. I hope I can find a good one for my 23’s next year.. but for now.. let me enjoy my new age. Happy birthday to me and all the awesome pisces out there!

R.